St John with St Mark CoE Primary School, Bury

Our Hamish & Milo Story

Believe, achieve and succeed is the vision for all pupils at St John with St Mark CoE Primary school in Bury. Central to the school’s ethos is creating a safe and welcoming place where differences are valued, diversity is celebrated and everyone is treated equally.

St John with St Mark is a one-and-a-half form entry primary set in a diverse and vibrant community with approximately 300 children in its care. Within the community, there is a range of socioeconomic needs, challenges, and opportunities, and a high proportion of children with English as an additional language (EAL), with 23 different languages spoken within the community.

Ofsted recognised the school as a ‘good school’ in November 2022 saying pupils are happy and safe, they all support and care for each other, take responsibility for their actions and meet the high expectations of staff for behaviour and achievement.

The team at St John with St Mark is led by Headteacher Steve Ollis and school-wide they have embraced the focus on wellbeing with the introduction of Hamish & Milo keen to enhance the wellbeing of many of their children, who they recognised as needing additional intervention and support.

Jill Wilcock took the lead in implementing the wellbeing programmes across the school in Spring 2022 and started with one afternoon a week and 12 children. Due to the level of success, this grew quickly and further intervention groups were run three afternoons a week, supporting nearly 50 children. The intention now is to train further staff members to run even more intervention groups.

Using the wellbeing intervention programme

After consulting other teaching and SENCO staff Jill looked at the levels and range of need and decided to start with the programme Calm me – helping children with anxiety. Starting with mixed age groups she selected children by emotional stage rather than age, which she found worked well and the children willingly helped each other with the activities and discussion.

One highlight for Jill was a group of children completing the Exploding me programme about angry and strong feelings. In this particular group, Jill had some year 6 boys with reception boys, who were able to help and support each other to develop the strategies, she recalls how the older boys rose to the challenge of ‘mentoring’ and helping the younger ones to manage big feelings, to express big feelings, learn to breathe and talk about their experiences by using the sock puppet pets.

Implementing other groups Jill found that the children of more similar ages benefitted from the depth of conversation made more powerful due to their similar experiences, and their capacity to share and think more deeply enabling them to speak openly and honestly to share their stories.

“The discussion was so powerful in terms of content because they all had similar experiences and could relate to each other so much.” Jill Wilcock

Jill is passionate about the programme and explains how teachers are all on board with the programme and see the benefit.

“The children absolutely love it!”

Jill Wilcock – PSHE Lead

“It just highlights the need for this programme.  The children are using the strategies back in class and it fits in with our whole school ethos and values of compassion and respect. We use it in our assemblies as a whole school approach, and it is being used across the school.  The feedback from teachers is that children are coming back from the groups ready and able to learn.”

From the outset, Jill was able to target her wellbeing intervention using the programmes for children with a range of emotional needs – anxiety, self-esteem, sadness, loss, friendship conflicts and strong angry feelings.

Anxiety ELSA Resources Hamish & Milo

Calm me

Helping children with anxiety to understand, express and regulate themselves

Self-esteem Hamish & Milo Wellbeing Resource

Amazing me

Helping children with self-esteem and self-worth

Sadness ELSA Resources Hamish & Milo

Finding me

Helping children with sadness to make sense of their feelings

Loss and bereavement ELSA Resources Hamish & Milo

Memories and me

Helping children cope with loss and bereavement

Friendships ELSA Resources Hamish & Milo

My friends and me

Helping children manage their friendship situations

Angry Feelings ELSA Resources Hamish & Milo

Exploding me

Helping children with strong, sometimes angry, emotions

Jill explained how the need for Hamish & Milo and wellbeing intervention work is huge due to the levels of need which have escalated since the pandemic but is also due to the 24-month wait for CAMHS in their area, which sadly is a similar picture in many other areas across the country.

Jill continues “Hamish & Milo has made a massive difference in our school, and even personally regarding my own career, it is making me want to do this work more.” Jill recognises how children need the chance to talk about their experiences and how so much can be missed in the everyday life of the classroom, but within a small group, where there is a sense of safety and belonging the children feel safe enough to speak about their experiences and feelings. She said “this is a massive avenue to open talking… the benefits are incredible.”

“I have installed a little bird box outside the room that the children can post notes into if they need me to know something or want to chat. Often they can stay after the group and talk if they need to.”

Safeguarding

As a result of the intervention work there have been some safeguarding disclosures that Jill comments have only come to light because the children feel safe enough to openly talk about how things are for them.

Jill continues “some children are living with horrific things in their lives and are unable to concentrate in school.” They have heard when children are scared and when things have happened to them, which wouldn’t have been communicated in the classroom environment and have successfully been able to follow up these cases to ensure children in their school are safe.

The child’s voice

The child’s voice is a huge part of Hamish & Milo wellbeing programmes and giving children permission to speak and feel really heard and valued is significantly important. Here are just some of the children’s comments:

  • “I don’t feel safe at home, but I feel safe here.”
  • “I wish the group went on longer.”

  • “I feel listened to.”
  • “Telling others how you feel and talking feels good to me.”

  • “It helps with my depression and makes me calmer in the day. The classroom gets too loud for me and I feel relief in this group.”

  • “It’s helped me think and not worry and just relax. I worry about learning and I don’t have to when I’m in here.”

St John with St Mark CoE Primary School Children

“The sock puppets are incredible!”

Even though nervous to use them at the start Jill describes how even the ‘burly and even bolshy’ year 6 boys love them. “They were embarrassed at first but then almost straight away became like puppies themselves, playful and engaged in using them every session.”

The children came into their own in talking through the sock puppets. One example Jill recalls is how a year six boy was helping another child in the Exploding me programme. He was sitting talking to his sock puppet with the younger child who was in reception and helping him to sit, relax back and do the same in taking deep breaths!

Another child commented “I liked the sock puppet the best. I worry when I’m in school especially when I started in year 6, I was nervous and I cried. I feel I’ve got confidence now”

Impact highlights

Jill reflects how there have been many highlights in running the Hamish & Milo programme at St John with St Mark CoE Primary School but these are stand out moments.

“A breakthrough moment was a selective mute child with English as their second language, who rarely joins in, began speaking.”

He didn’t speak at all until the fourth session of Amazing me when the children were asked for one good thing to them as of the ‘welcome and check in’ part of the session. The child spoke for the first time and said “here” as in ‘being here’ in the group was what was good for him. It was a very special moment for Jill and the group as the first time this child had spoken. Incredibly, the child went on to speak in the other sessions and has since been in a second intervention group and has spoken from the outset. Jill now reports that “He now has a big beam on his face.” This is a truly remarkable story and life-changing for this child.

“A very serious case of three feuding friends, that had impacted all the families, included nasty social media and even knife threats was resolved.”

“We absolutely solved the problem through the My friends and me programme! We followed the whole programme and by the end they were even making friendship bracelets for each other. The parents were on board, I rang them after each session and kept them updated and they all came in for the last session together with the children. The parents were made up – it literally solved the feud!” The programme gave the girls the tools, strategies and structure to work with and time to think and to take responsibility for themselves.” One girl from the group said “We weren’t friends and things were getting really bad. My friends and me has made me a better friend.”

A special room

There is now a special room for the intervention groups that is a safe and welcoming space for children to come and for their work to be displayed and valued. The children love being in the room and one child commented how “I feel safe in here. I think that makes me talk better about stuff” another said “First time I came I didn’t know what it was, but I enjoyed making the puppets and now I feel I can trust people here.”

A special tree display

A special tree display has become a permanent feature in the room and throughout the programme’s it is used to hang children’s ideas and expression of feelings through artworks and activities like ‘Words of comfort tree’ or ‘My tree of support.’

Visiting a local care home with Hamish & Milo!

Another huge highlight of the St John with St Marks Hamish & Milo story is how one of the Amazing me groups for children with very little self-esteem visited a local care home taking their sock puppets with them. The children, having done the activity the week previously with Jill, are having the confidence to lead the activity with the residents of the care home which has improved their confidence no end. The children have even made sock puppet pets with the residents. The group even presented an assembly to the whole school and these are children who wouldn’t even put their hands up in class before hand. The Hamish & Milo groups are now regular visitors to the care home!

Measuring the impact

It is always important to see a difference in children receiving intervention and using the wellbeing profile tools for each programme theme has enabled Jill, the SENCO staff and teachers to see a lasting impact for the children being more ready and able to learn, using the strategies they have learnt in class and being able to plan for next steps. One child commented how: “My teacher likes me coming here because when I get back, I do my work good.”

“We know we are making a difference. Our Headteacher is fully behind me, it is a game changer for our school, a gift!”

Jill Wilcock

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